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Hypocrisy Department

11/29/2012

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They’ll 
promote 
the look, 
sell you 
the dress, 
and shame 
you if you 
wear it

Left: Current online ad for City Creek Center, Salt Lake CIty’s newest and hottest mall. Today’s once-polygamist Mormon Church counsels women that tight and/or backless attire is immodest and should not be worn. The Mormon Church also happens to own City Creek Center.
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An advantage of living in the Salt Lake area

11/26/2012

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The King's English Bookshop 1511 South 1500 East Salt Lake City, UT 84105 801-484-9100
Now you can pick up “It’s Not About the Sex” My Ass by Joanne Hanks at the King’s English Bookshop (1511 South 1500 East). Last we checked, they still had five copies in stock. Hurry over! And tell four of your friends.
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Mormons and Polygamy

11/25/2012

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The Mormon Church and Polygamy: 
Setting the record straight after 
the Mormon Church tilts it their way

A characteristic of cults is to withhold troublesome information from potential recruits. It is usually defended as offering “milk” until you can abide “meat.” Nonsense. Being up-front with the weird stuff scares prospects away. Waiting provides time to work on desensitizing your inner baloney detector.
     It is not our intent to attack Mormonism. It IS our intent to arm people against cults. And when it comes to its history with and beliefs about polygamy, the Mormon Church acts like a cult.
     Take, for instance, this official Mormon Church web page. It purports to set the record straight as to the Mormon Church and polygamy. In reality, it is rife with half-truths, obfuscations and out-and-out misrepresentations. 
     Here is the text from that page, verbatim, punctuated with our annotations in green, which reveal what the Mormon Church would prefer you not learn until later.


• There are 13 million Mormons in the United States and around the world, and not one of them is a polygamist. 

     If “is a polygamist” means “has one wife at a time in this life,” then Mormons aren’t polygamists. 
     If “is a polygamist” means “believes that polygamy was commanded by God,” then every Mormon is a polygamist. (See Doctrine and Covenants, Section 132.) 
     
If “is a polygamist” means “expects to have plural wives in heaven,” then Mormon widowers who remarry are polygamists. Mormon doctrine allows for a man to remarry as often as he is widowed and to have all of his wives with him in the hereafter.
     If “is a polygamist” means worshipping a God who may be a polygamist, then all Mormons may be polygamists. Mormon doctrine implies that God and Jesus are polygamists.

• “Mormon” is the most common and widely accepted name for a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, headquartered in Salt Lake City. “Mormons” have nothing whatsoever to do with the Texas sect known as “FLDS,” or with any other polygamous group.

     They are not affiliated. Both claim to spring from the original Mormon Church, accept Joseph Smith and Brigham Young as prophets, accept the Book of Mormon as scripture, and hold that polygamy was commanded by God. That hardly qualifies as “nothing whatsoever.”

• The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints doesn’t allow anyone practicing polygamy to be a member.

     True, except as noted. (See above, “There are 13 million Mormons ...”)

• Polygamy was part of our past, for about 50 years in the 19th century. But it is not part of our present. Polygamy was officially discontinued in 1890  —  118 years ago.

     The implied distancing from the church’s polygamist past misleads. The Mormon Church defends polygamy as God-mandated, and concedes that it would comply if God mandated it again. 
     The alleged 1890 discontinuation is factually incorrect. In and near Utah, the Mormon Church discontinued polygamy only officially and publicly; in reality, it quietly allowed polygamy to continue and attrit over the next few decades. At the same time, the Mormon Church officially sent members to Mexico, where polygamy wasn’t yet illegal, to continue the practice there.

• When practiced by Mormons in the 19th century, polygamy was quite unlike the depictions of polygamous groups now seen on TV. For instance, a woman had freedom of choice as to whom she would marry. She made her own decisions about life, education and personal pursuits and did not isolate herself from the world. 

     We need to break this one into smaller pieces. Here goes:

>>> When practiced by Mormons in the 19th century, polygamy was quite unlike the depictions of polygamous groups now seen on TV. ...

     Many Mormon polygamist cults are meticulous about living polygamy as practiced by the original Mormon Church.

>>> ... For instance, a woman had freedom of choice as to whom she would marry. She made her own decisions about life, education and personal pursuits ... 

     Hardly. The Mormon Church was founded in 1830. Women of that day, including Mormon women, had little freedom in today’s sense of the word. This is borne out in numerous Mormon journals with anecdotes of marriageable women being traded, given, and taken in polygamy. 
     Smith wielded authority not just as a man but as a prophet. When his “first wife” balked at polygamy, Smith produced a “revelation” from God telling her to comply or “be destroyed.” Smith bullied at least three reluctant women into plural marriage by telling them an invisible angel was standing by, sword drawn, ready to hack him to pieces before their eyes unless they consented to marrying him. (See Mormon-friendly biography of Joseph Smith, Rough Stone Rolling, by acclaimed Mormon scholar Richard Bushman.)
     Mormon prophet Brigham Young left women little choice when he said, “Now if any of you will deny the plurality of wives, and continue to do so, I promise that you will be damned.” (Journal of Discourses, vol. 3, p. 266)
     Official Mormon Church policy has always tended to limit women’s freedom of choice. From its inception in Smith’s time until the phrase was deleted in the 1990s, the Mormon temple ceremony put women under covenant to “obey the law of your husband.” The present-day Mormon Church is on the record with this oft-repeated statement: “By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families ... Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.”
     The Mormon Church teaches obedience over individualism. Three examples: 
      — “To get salvation we must not only do some things, but everything which God has commanded.” (Mormon founder and prophet Joseph Smith, History of the Church, 6:223) 
      — “When the Prophet speaks, the debate is over.” (Elaine Cannon, general president of the Mormon Church’s Young Women Organization, November Ensign 1978 p.108)
      — “I know a 17-year-old who ... took off the second set of earrings, and simply said to her parents, ‘If [Mormon prophet] President Hinckley says we should only wear one set of earrings, that’s good enough for me.’ Wearing two pair of earrings may or may not have eternal consequences for this young woman, but her willingness to obey the prophet will.” (Apostle M. Russell Ballard, “His Word Ye Shall Receive,” Ensign, May 2001, 65)


>>> ... and did not isolate herself from the world.

     Mormonism is isolationist in nature and practice. The early church established settlements and expected converts to move to them. Today’s Mormon Church isolates members by counseling them not to associate with “apostate groups” and with people who do not share their “standards.”


• Today's Mormons live in every state of the U.S. and in 162 countries. Mormon men and women can be found in all professional fields  —  doctors, teachers, police officers, scientists and soldiers. The Mormon Tabernacle Choir has sung at presidential inaugurations and at the 2002 Winter Olympic Games in Salt Lake City.

     All true, but none of these things bears on the Mormon Church’s doctrine and practice of polygamy. 

• The FLDS group adopted the name “Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints” in the early 1990s (watch video). It is an isolated group numbering a few thousand members. There should be no confusion between Mormons and polygamists.

     The first two statements are true, but the third statement does not follow from them. The foregoing also overlooks the fact that the FLDS are only one of many Mormon-based polygamist cults. There is confusion between Mormons and polygamists, and for good reason.
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Touching note from a  childhood friend of Joanne’s former “sister-wife”

11/24/2012

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We received a touching email yesterday (text at right). We especially appreciate the sender’s closing comment, “I know you never thought sharing this story would help someone try to understand a dear childhood friend but thank you for writing it!” Thank you for writing.
“When I was in growing up in a very small town, I gathered a rather unique group of friends. They were all in the top of the class, with various religious backgrounds, who were just trying to get through the least damaged as possible. In our junior year, 5 years after our motley crew formed, we were all blindsided by one of our silly, kind-hearted pals. She literally had gone from one day saying that she wanted to go to BYU for science or writing because they were her loves, to being a wife and mother. She wasn't one for drama or depression. She was the most level headed of our group. So where did this come from?

“A week later the news started trickling in. Her father stood up in church on Sunday and denounced the LDS faith and its exclusion of polygamy. Another member of our group spilled the secret of her changed dreams. Her father was making her marry a man twice her age who already had one wife. To a group of teen girls it was the worst tragedy we could imagine. We were all shocked, sickened, saddened for our friend. We also didn't realize that the Friday before was the last time we would ever see her again.

“I have done my best to keep up with her online and through the news. She also occasionally pops up on Facebook for a couple of months and then vanishes again. I know the [“Judith”] I knew in the 90's is not the same person I hear from occasionally. I found your book Joanne in the search for anything new I could find on her.

“Though I have only read the free parts of your book, I do plan to buy it after Christmas. I have to see where I lost my best friend [“Judith”] to the polygamous [“Judith”]. I know you never thought sharing this story would help someone try to understand a dear childhood friend but thank you for writing it!”


The writer’s name has been withheld per her request
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Mormon-friendly “The Cultural Hall” podcast: Joanne Hanks on growing up Mormon, joining polygamy, leaving polygamy

11/18/2012

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Joanne Hanks provides background that will resonate with practicing Mormons (LDS) and fill in gaps for non-Mormons. Listen now by clicking the “play” arrow here:
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Praise for *“It's Not About the Sex" My Ass*

11/15/2012

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We just received this delightful note from a reader:

I purchased the Kindle version of your book ... and read it straight thru. It was, without a doubt, a most entertaining and poignant presentation and it uniquely accomplished your goal of "humor and satire". I wasn't prepared to burst out laughing and found it a wonderful alternative to the usual dour and sometimes boring presentations of similar books.

Impassioned, powerful and succinct and with a compelling imperative to discover genuine and rational purpose in life. 

It also accomplishes much more than a simple delineation of the TLC cult. It proffers wonderful insights into how any of us can rationalize an inability to be rational. I sometimes call it an arrogance of ignorance.

I couldn't put the story down.
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